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Comment on Why Can’t Men Be Alone? by Swara Mate

Swara Mate — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 18:20:59 +0000

Oh Latelifesingle, the red cape you wield is definitely having the desired effect on this bull.

First, I did a Google search on why can’t men be alone. Guess what the very first search result was?

AskMen.com – Women who can’t be aloneWomen who can’t be alone- Women who are never single.

After 3 pages, I didn’t find a sinlge match to my question and came to the conclusion that men don’t want to talk about why they can’t be alone on top of not being able to be alone. Did that make sense?

After my husband left for what he perceived as greener pastures, I deliberately took introspective time to get to know me. Had I rushed headlong into a relationship to ward off the loneliness I am sure I would have been unhappy. And that really would have been the tail wagging the dog afterall.

This may bring me closer to a point then an emotional tirade. Looking in can be very humbling and difficult. Learning to love everything about yourself, warts and all and become your own best friend is one of the most onerous things I have done but also the most rewarding.

Honestly, I think there are precious few people in this world who really want to take responsibility for their own happiness as it is so appealing to default to “I’m getting screwed” or “its not my fault”.

Where is this going you ask? I think men will always have the “Mamma will fix” thing going on, especially when hurricanes swirl around them.

But what do women grow up to be? One way or another – Mothers. By our very nature we have a stronger constitution and an innate ability to handle things when they go sideways.

Enough said for now. I will return to enjoying my solitary life.

Comment on Adult Learning by Victoria based

Victoria based — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 23:59:34 +0000

Ah memories. I can almost smell the classroom, feel the trepidation and recoil at the losing of one’s chronological age, no matter how old, when the voice of authoritarianism is raised.

Nice.

Comment on Sisters by Val Gregory

Val Gregory — Sun, 17 Feb 2008 21:21:08 +0000

Karen, your blog is coming along well although I would like to see more posts! You have a polished, witty and authentic voice and a niche in which you could do some interesting things. I really like your About section as well. See you tomorrow.

Comment on How do you break up with a group of friends? by Swara Mate

Swara Mate — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 18:19:20 +0000

Life changes us when we least expect it and supposition will always be just that. If Anne is willing to provide more information for the sake of the group that’s great but she may not be able to at this point in time.

Let her go with love and ensure she knows she can come back at any time, no questions asked.

Our flexibility and ability to love through adversity is what distinguishes us from the other tool-using mammals.

Yeah us.

Comment on How do you break up with a group of friends? by reunionwritings

reunionwritings — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 14:31:37 +0000

Perhaps for “Anne” adoption is a trigger, she may have lost a family memeber, her mother, her child or she may just not agree with adoption. Africa itself is not a controversial subject so she may have put that in to soften the blow.

I don’t know.

You still have some of the group together so I guess the dynamics change.

And I’m not saying anyone did anything wrong, I hope that was clear.